It’s no secret that happy couples share fond memories, but just how important are the bonds you make in the first year of marriage? A research article titled “The Connubial Crucible: Newlywed Years as Predictors of Marital Delight, Distress, and Divorce”, published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, may shed some light on that very question.
The 13 year study followed 156 couples and found that feelings of ambivalence, lessening of loving feelings, decline in overt affection and the perception that your spouse is responsive were large contributing factors in divorce. Couples who showed distress signs within the first two months of marriage were even quicker to the chopping block.
The research points to evidence that the prevailing mood of couples “right after they tied the knot” were key in predicting marriage success and happiness. Happily married couples were able to recall positive feelings about their spouse in the first 2 years of marriage and were able to “keep the romance alive”.
Honeymoons are all about the romance. Creating bliss and an environment where a couple can really bond is a large ingredient in the recipe for success. Financing that honeymoon is where many couples get into trouble and dealing with conflict is not the best way to bond before the honeymoon.
If you know what you want for your honeymoon but are just not sure how to get it, a great honeymoon gift registry can help you afford it. If you aren’t sure what you want for a honeymoon, inspiration is what is required.
To get inspired, here are a few great links to successful honeymoon stories to get your creative brain working:
Try making a list of every fantasy desire you have ever had. Even as small as a pair of gloves you always wanted as a child or a concert you wanted to attend. Discuss these lists with each other and then turn them over to your lover. Chances are you will forget the many small details you wrote down but they will have the chance to surprise you in their very own way. Maybe they can’t get your favorite band back together but what if they produce the concert shirt from that year? Remember, romance is key so learn as many small details as you can about your soon-to-be and keep the love alive!